Reframing
The biggest challenge with receiving negative feedback is to control the intense negative feelings that such feedback triggers. Those feelings make it more likely that you react in ways which you'll later regret. For example, they might make you appear more emotional than you want to appear. Therefore, our first priority when receiving criticism is to keep the negative emotions at bay.
To help limit negative emotions, we suggest the first thing you do when Harper criticizes you is to say to yourself:
Of course, you can vary the exact wording of the sentence you say to yourself. The important aspect of the sentence is that it reframes the situation as a positive opportunity for you.
Which of these sentences could you say to yourself to reframe being criticized by Harper as an opportunity?
Suppose you were criticized by your colleague for having been late to meetings. Which of these sentences could you tell yourself to reframe the situation as an opportunity?